Facing The Hardest Things You’ve Ever Had to Face

Let’s be real-being a Christian doesn’t mean that you’re immune to the trials and tribulations of life . As a matter of fact , the Bible says in Psalms 34:19 that “many are the afflictions of the righteous but the Lord delivers him from them all “.   That’s good to know and I got the concept of this scripture a long time ago. However it would take me years before I was able to incorporate it’s meaning to my day to day life. This was never more true than when I lost my husband suddenly to a heart attack. I have faced many physical adversities before I lost Keith. Battling the painful and at times debilitating effects of Severe RA ( Rheumatoid Arthritis) has been a part of my life for decades. So I can honestly tell you that I wasn’t a novice when it comes to the adversities in life. But this time it was different and I felt that not even God could bring me through this one ! Needless to say that I was wrong- I would learn more than I thought about myself and God . I also would meet the same  Lord that David spoke of in Psalms 23:4 :“Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I fear no danger because you are with me. Your rod and your staff— they protect me.”‭‭Psalms‬ ‭23:4‬ ‭CEB‬‬

Facing the hardest parts in your life is difficult to say the least. I have spent three years in a nursing home and all before the age of forty.  I have had at least five hip operations and the first time I had a hip surgery, I was just twenty six years old. During all of my life struggles I was a Christian. I have asked those questions, ‘Lord please tell me what I’m doing wrong ‘ – ‘Why do you allow these things to happen to me?’ , When will you make it stop? 

 Yes I know what it feels like to expect one thing out of my life and to get something else. The funniest thing began to happen though. With every soul crushing experience in my life I started to see the prayers that I prayed in the past produce more fruits of the spirit. In the moments of frustration- I started to develop patience. When I felt totally alone and misunderstood by the people around me – I learned to lean and depend heavily on the One who said that he would never leave or forsake me ! You see the things I thought would surely break me have been the very things that that the Lord used to shape me. Once you get an understanding of how God uses adversity to mold us into what we should be- you’ll learn not to fear those things. 

Facing obstacles and hardship in life is a necessity for our own spiritual development and maturity. My trials brought me closer to the Lord ; I learned how to pray before I panic ! Your faith means nothing if you cannot find any faith in times of trouble. 

I love the books of Psalms because you get to see how David would take the worst circumstances and have enough faith to turn them over to God. For example“My comfort during my suffering is this: your word gives me new life.”‭‭Psalms‬ ‭119:50‬ ‭CEB‬‬ Here’s David in middle of a betrayal and his first inclination is to turn the situation over to the Lord ! Many of the songs (Psalms) David wrote were born out of his pain and suffering. Wouldn’t it make life easier if you and I could have the same unwavering faith ? 

Whether you are facing a hardship in the moment or will dance with a devastation in the future  – understand that the Lord will be with you. Don’t play tug of war with your struggles, let God do the heavy lifting. I have faced some of the worst parts of my life and found Him to be faithful. You too can have that kind of confidence that the Lord will see you through darkest days. Just remember that the choice is yours. You don’t have to face it alone. 


Author: LaShandri M. Foxx

I'm a writer, blogger and the author of book Facing Goliath. Licensed & Ordained 96 National Chaplains Association. Christian and unapologetically Democrat. Widow, daughter and the sister of two extraordinary gentlemen. For the past 27 years I have battled a chronic autoimmune disease called Severe Rheumatoid Arthritis. As a result, I've had 13 surgeries and been in and out of rehab (nursing homes) since the age of 26. I've also been addicted to alcohol and abused my opioid pain medication. Of course I had a good mix of sunshine and rain. Eventually somewhere along the way I came to realize that God had a better life intended for me. That's when I stopped being overwhelmed and started overcoming! Since then I have experienced more joy and peace than I could've ever expected. That's also when I realized that my mess was my message. My message ( or at least my focus ) is that of overcoming adversity in the Christian life and communicating the advantages of hardship and obstacles. I believe that my life has given me a unique perspective on the subject. This is the mission that the Lord has given me : to enlighten, inspire and encourage others. I'm a spiritual being having an earthly experience ! So that means that it's important for us not to be so spiritually minded that we're of no earthly good! Simply put I want to have a positive impact on people's lives by sharing love (not judgement). As Muhammed Ali said 'doing good is the price you pay for the life you have on earth '(paraphrased). If I was given the choice of being a millionaire over being able to positively change lives of others - I'd choose the latter because you can't put a value on the eternal benefits of a life in the service of Christ.

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